Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Thank God

Hurricane Dean from space
(click to see the pic a little bigger)

We were soooo lucky! Dean could have hit us, and was projected to hit us directly at several points, but then kept moving west instead of west-north-west. A few degrees difference made all the difference in the world.

I have a problem because the other radio stations ask for help and then The OI Girl is mad because I am not with her. Mad is not the right word, sad, upset, disappointed and hurt are better words. Definitely not mad. She cried talking to me about it, and I can't stand to see tears coming from those eyes.

After the all clear was given the other station asked me to go with them to turn on their transmitter. I felt like I had to go because I have the only key, they're in my transmitter room. Then there were problems, and it ended up like over 4 hours till I made it home. I wanted to be at home with her.
The OI Girl and I had planned to go unpack and have a nice dinner and homecoming. Now she's upset because she feels like she comes second to work. In fact, OI Girl and I were already in the parking lot to head home when they asked for me to go out to the transmitter site.

Even my own job has worked me in the past without compensation. I pretty much have the brakes on now, which doesn't make me feel to good.

When I was married, I felt like it almost cost me my job because I put her totally ahead of work. If I ever had to work extra my ex would just scream bloody murder.

But I need to find a compromise. I'm getting into trouble at home, and I'm tired of working for free.

10 Comments:

Blogger ShooShoo said...

Very glad to learn that the storm missed you, and that everything's okay where you are.

The work vs. personal relationships can be really tough. I tend to want to put the personal relationships first as much as possible, but there definitely has to be exceptions to that rule if one wants to do a good job... at least in most cases... Good luck with sorting that out. :)

August 21, 2007 2:42 AM  
Blogger Oopsy Daisy said...

Whew! That was a close one! I am so glad it missed you.

Good luck with that work/home thing. If you find a solution you should patent it because millions of us would like that secret.

August 21, 2007 6:16 AM  
Blogger Renee said...

I'm so glad to hear that it missed y'all. I kind of lost track of it last night, but I didn't hear anything about Cayman so I figured you were okay. Too close for comfort, huh?

August 21, 2007 8:26 AM  
Blogger sefrim said...

Hi Mark, my website conteudoclonado.blogspot.com is closed, but i remember: you live in caiman islands...

I was twisting so that the hurrycane did not reach its house. Good luck!

Jefferson

August 21, 2007 8:54 AM  
Anonymous mox said...

Work-life balance is a toughy. My husband is a workaholic, and I've made peace with that fact because I tend to be quite independent. Then again, we've been together 20 years... sometimes I've been known to ask him when he's leaving on another trip, because he's underfoot too much.

I worked at a TV station for a couple of years and can attest to the dedication that the engineers have to keeping a station on the air. Our guys were often out in all kinds of crazy weather, at the transmitter site, band-aiding stuff together.

I think in this case, with Dean blowing by, you had some sort of responsibility to keeping your station up and helping others to stay on air too, to relay any info. In a case like that, your larger responsibility is to the island.

The only other things I can think to tell you is 1) call her frequently to let her know what is going on when you're working overtime (some things you can't control) and 2) get another key made to the transmitter and let someone else be responsible for it.

August 21, 2007 10:24 AM  
Blogger Heather said...

I'm glad to hear that the hurricane passed by you, Mark.

Unfortunately, the hurricane of a relationship can be a much tougher burden to bear. Forgive any poetic licenses that I take--I've been to Happy Hour this evening...

I have always stood on the ground of doing whatever makes me happiest. But, sometimes, it's the perfect combination of things that can make you feel the best. Times like this aren't easy, but you'll make your way through. Eventually, the "cream" will rise to the top and you'll get what you really desire.

I have to believe things like that or else I'd just give up right now and become a hermit... :)

Either way, chin up.

August 21, 2007 6:10 PM  
Anonymous addict said...

I'm so releived that Dean missed you!! Scarey stuff.

As for Ol Girl... relationships (in my humble opinion) can be like an illenss (this isn't coming out quite right) there are symptoms (she's hurt and you don't like to see her hurt), but the cause of the symptom is that you obviously care a great deal for each other and that you want to do things better than you have perhaps in the past.
As long as you have that, you'll be able to figure out the details of a balance that works well for you, her and the boss man.
:)
And, your safe and sound!!

August 22, 2007 1:16 AM  
Blogger Carnealian said...

So glad you are both safe and sound!! I've been on OI's side of things. My ex worked alot, if he didn't work, he didn't get paid. I cried, screamed, got sad, did nothing. It didn't change his work habits. Now, I'm on the other side of the coin. If I don't work I don't get paid. Thankfully, my partner doesn't say a word that I have to work. Would you get fired if you didn't do what they asked?

August 22, 2007 1:03 PM  
Blogger Cindy N. said...

So glad to hear you are safe and sound. I understand your problem about OI Girl, but I also understand it from her point of view as well. I like what Mox said....if you have to be away, keep close contact with OI Girl. I think, as women, we mainly want to know our man wants to be with us as much as we want to be with him. And we want to know we are in his thoughts. Just let her know that. My hubby has to work a LOT of overtime and since I am retired I already spend a lot of time by myself, so it makes it even worse for me when he works late because that is more time I spend alone. It always helps if he will just call me and tell me he loves me and he will be home as soon as he can. I also agree about the key thing. There should be more than just you that is responsible for that. What happens when you are out of town? Who handles it then? Life/work has to have a balance. Family is very important.

my word verif is INPLUV. Tell OI Girl you are INPLUV with her! OFTEN!

August 22, 2007 11:51 PM  
Blogger MarkD60 said...

Thanks for all your comments. It ended up that the other radio station sent a giant fruit basket and flowers to me and the OI Girl. They scored a lot of points for me that way.

Carnealean, it wouldn't be that easy to fire me, because of my contract. But I feel guilty if a job needs to be done and I don't do it.

August 23, 2007 8:15 AM  

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